Where is Kindness?

I Immigrated to USA a few of decades ago and my early experiences about civic sense and basic etiquettes got me awestruck. I was pleasantly impressed by the way people behaved. I remember I was once walking out the door and the person in front of me held the door for me, I just stepped aside thinking he was holding that door for another person. He smiled and waved me in, and I followed him like a puppy. I wanted to marry him that instant, he just seemed like a perfect match for me, regardless of his age. My education had theoretically taught me to expect these things but experiencing the chivalry of that man was out of ordinary for me. I mentally disappeared in to the imaginary land of Barbara Cartland where I was being rescued by my Knight in shining armor. I adapted the friendliness and mannerism of Americans and inculcated that in my norms. Fast forward to thirty years and my beautiful perception of America is fading. I get the gym door and many other beautiful strong doors slammed on my face almost every day. People are gradually losing the kindness or maybe, I'm just imagining it. However, I'm still not doing that to others but who knows, one day I will adapt this habit too.

My example might be a miniscule one but my question has lot of weightage. Are we losing our kindness towards our fellow Americans? Kindness towards each other is becoming a scarce commodity, the human behavior is rapidly evolving to I, Me and Myself. We have no patience for others, there are no listeners to the conversation and every one is raising their pitch higher so they can be heard. We take a second to contradict others and in the continuing sentence we will say something to contradict ourselves, who is listening anyway? Conversations turn into arguments in no time and the grudges are accumulated and preserved for years. We should be thankful to the lawyers otherwise conversations will turn into fist fights and more. At least, we are civil enough and we do not lay hands on each others, and that too in the normal course of events or maybe, we refrain from that because we our not too excited about the sleeping arrangements in the Jails. Whatever the reason might be our behaviors are changing and taking the downward trend.

I'm still looking for good old kindness, I looked for it within me as well, did not find much. Why should I be any less than others, I'm an integral part of society and I will pay back people what they invest in me. Sometimes, I wonder, should I make an effort to remain kind?.....Contemplating.